Words

In conversation and its context, whether people say something nice or bad about us to others without us knowing, no one could really calculate the effect of the talk, even the 'talker'. Humans are meant to be secret creatures with unpredictable reactions and im-measurable effect. This 'talker' most of the time has no idea of the result of his words. That is why the words can be so dangerous.

Let's say a friend puts good words about me to a person so that I would look 'appetizing' in his eyes. Obviously a matchmaking process. :-) Who can tell the effect of the talk? It's OK if he finds me 'appetizing', right? Would the person like what he hears? If he doesn't, I would miss a chance to know him before I even meet him. The power of words.

I have a conflict with a friend. I tell the world about it. Perhaps my purpose is just to vent my anger. Sharing it seems to be the way to lessen the inner burden. How many would think that I'm just venting my anger? How many would listen and then begin to avoid my friend? How many would think that they should avoid me because of my unstable emotional being? How many would take advantage of the situation? Words are truly powerful.

At work, I could convey my dream and my interest to someone about the project I want to handle. Why? Probably because it can make me happy and become a better person. Words say that I won't be able to get it because that's not the 'plot'. One senior colleague tells a person in a high place that I won't be happy if I am given a different project. I never ask her to do it, no matter how close our relationship is. It's work. It's just different and I know my limit. After listening to her, would this person in high place truly listen? What does he think of this colleague of mine? What would he say to his colleagues in that high place? Who would have the 'honor' to listen to such news? And, what does he, and if he tells everybody, think of ME?

ARGH!