I have good relations with the people I used to work with. I had been one of them before I was their superior and I was for 5 years. 5 years is not short. So? No surprise if the connection continues and trust is strong.
And then, there came the new guys with the new work ethic and culture…. And with that, come problems.
It’s not a mistake when people still come to me for advice or just for a sympathetic face and attentive ears, right? It did not happen just once or twice. So I’ve decided that this listening without doing anything really tires me, not to mention the more damage that will happen. I’ve just got to do something…. I’d asked her senior to talk to her. Nope, he said. He ASKED me to talk to her. So I did.
Big mistake.
After a short phone call with me, full of denials, she complained to my colleague about the way the communication works. She’s surprised that these people come to me first instead. She’s wondered why I know these people’s problems better than her and her colleagues. She’s questioning my authority. She’s asking about my too-good-to-be-true connections with them.
Too bad…. She has this bunch of questions for me and yet, she didn’t come to me to ask them. I would gladly answer those, you know. But she didn’t. Not yet, at least. The sad thing is she's losing the focus: not about her finding a way to win the heart of the people but about their wrong procedure to communicate their aspiration to the wrong people.
Conclusion? Talking to her was a mistake…. Unless she opens up and is willing to listen, I’d think twice to talk to her again.
2 comments:
I don't think that's a wise conclusion, jeng. However, I do agree that you need some time off her :)
I want to talk to her again but only time will tell me what to do next. Hope she'll understand my intention.
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