Forget and Move On

What you get does not always equal what you give.
What you give is not always appreciated.
Never assume that you'll get something because you give something.

With that note, I believe these.

When you're nice to people, they do not always return the kindness you show.
When people are nice to you, assume that you were nice to them somehow, some time.

When people are nice to you and you don't know why, the first assumption would be because you must have done something good somewhere, some time to someone and God thinks that you deserve to have something in return.

The second is based on the how-human-can-be-tricky-and-insincere philosophy. In other words, the negative thinking philosophy. When people are nice to you and you don't know why, they might have something they want from you. It's bitter but it's true.

When people are not nice to you, they'd probably don't know who you are inside.

They can be mean when they think that you're a 'threat' to them. It really doesn't matter whether you do mean to frighten them or not. It's the insecurity factor.

They are mean because no one had set an example to them. It's okay to be nice, it doesn't make you look weak. Or probably they've never felt any kindness before. They are out of practice. Thus, with no practice involved they may never know how kindness can bring a smile to one's heart. And theirs.

Then, people can be mean simply because they want to be. As simple as that.
Lastly, people can be mean even though they don't know that what they do can make other people sad, frustated, etc.

There are hundreds, perhaps thousands of reasons why people are nice, not nice or even mean. It's an individual right to still love or hate the people who are mean to us. When you care enough, you try to understand. You forgive. When you choose to hate, you set your boundaries. You can't stand the name, the face or even the stories about them. You lit some anger, disappointment, sadness inside yourself and I bet you can mention some other adjectives that fall into that category.

Yep, you come to the choosing 'game' again and again.

It's not about making yourself understand of the 'whys' people are mean.
It's not about getting even either.

It's about moving on.
For your peace of mind.
For your health.
Most importantly, for your sanity.

Whether you're angry or frustated or sad,
Whether you're sick or you're lethargic because you turn insomnic,
Whether you disappear from the world,
Do these people really care with what happen to you?

DON'T THINK SO.
And it's not worth it. It's not worth your life.
It's not worth YOU.

Whatever feelings you have inside: sadness, frustration, despair, broken heart, disappointment and others, you've got to learn probably the hardest thing in the world: letting go.

That's the only way you could be at peace.